Reinvent Yourself by Saying “Yes!”
William Shatner has reinvented himself dozens of times in a career that boldly went from leading the Enterprise in Star Trek to most recently doing a one-man show on Broadway. The LA Times[i] reported that “Shatner’s career is defined by a bottomless capacity to try it all. Nothing is too weird or outlandish.”
“It’s easy to say no,” he says. “Saying yes carries more danger to it. Saying yes is risky business—but how much richer my life has been because of it.”
Reinventing yourself involves being courageous and saying “yes” to an idea or opportunity that seems too farfetched or over-the-top to even be worthy of consideration. One of my clients recently told me that “it is scary” to contemplate a new direction, but then in the next breath, she said, “I want to be scared more.” We are attracted to the possibilities in our lives, but at the same time we find ourselves pulling back and running for cover.
On his deathbed, Dr. Fred Hollows said, “You disappoint yourself more often by not doing things because of cowardice and temerity than you ever did by doing things that turn out to be wrong.” After Hollows halved curable blindness amongst Australian aborigines, he then took his dream of eliminating blindness to Nepal, Eritrea and Vietnam. In 1991, he was named Eritrea’s first honorary citizen.
I like to use Appreciative Inquiry to help my clients move through fear to get the courage they need to pursue a new possibility:
Step 1: When in the past did you take a risk and say “yes” to something that worked out well for you? Think about what you did to have courage at that moment, about who and what supported you to do so, and how it felt to say “yes.”
Step 2: Think about how you can apply what you did in your “peak experience” when you courageously said “yes” to something to your current possibility.
Coaching Questions to ask yourself: How are you hanging back? What do you have to do, to boldly go through? What can you say “yes” to? What do you want to start doing? What are you not doing because you are being cowardly?
If you are interested in how you can be coached to say “yes” to the next possibility in your life, please call me for a complimentary coaching session at 805-448-7681 or schedule a session on line at http://www.lynnkjones.com/calendar/
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Dr. Lynn K. Jones is a Certified Personal and Executive Coach based in Santa Barbara, California and a sought after coach and consultant for organizations and individuals across the US. Her doctoral work completed at the Wurzweiler School of Social Work, Yeshiva University concerned organizational culture; she coaches, consults and trains organizations on what they need to do to create organizational cultures that are aligned with their vision and values using a process of Appreciative Inquiry. She coaches individuals on achieving their reflected best selves. An MSW@USC faculty member, Dr. Lynn K. Jones, MSW, DSW, CSWM, teaches Human Behavior and Social Environment and Leadership to social work students at the University of Southern California.
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