“We must select our environment with the greatest of care, because environment is the mental feeding ground out of which the food that goes into our minds is extracted”~Napoleon Hill
Increase Your Happiness by Choosing the Right Relationships
Everything in one’s life can be viewed as a relationship of one kind or another– from our relationship to our physical and social environment to our relationship to our own self.
Understanding how your relationships effect your happiness and well-being is essential to your ultimate success. You can begin to subtly shift your relationships to directly increase your happiness, productivity and overall well being.
The first and most fundamental relationship is the one you have with your physical environment. The town, city, state and even nation we live in will directly effect our lifestyle and the outcomes we produce in life. The way that our communities are built can deeply effect multiple factors and consequently the course of our lives.
An article written recently in the Los Angeles times discusses the concept of tracking environmental factors in city residents. The article states that “well-being measures can capture intangible factors important to civic life. For example, the more connected people feel to their community, the more likely they are to bounce back after a natural disaster. And people with better mental health tend to pay less for healthcare.”
Start to notice the way in which your environment effects your day to day choices and ultimately your outcomes. Are there factors in your city or even home or office that can be changed to support you?
The second relationship is the one we have with our social environment. The people we decide to associate with, the community events we attend and the relationships we engage in will be the most influential part of our lives. Even the choices the people we associate with make will directly result our own choices.
In their book Connected: The Surprising Power of Our Social Networks, Doctors Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler discovered that if your friend’s friend’s friend starts gaining weight or takes up smoking, you’re more likely to do the same. That is powerful. It is essential to look at who you are associating with. Are the people in your life inspiring and uplifting? Who are they connecting with and what does their life consist of? Do you have positive networks in place? Do you have mentors you look up to?
The last relationship discussed here is the relationship of internal self talk. It is easy to overlook but our relationship with the thoughts in our very own head are key to our happiness. Do you let negative self talk or limiting beliefs get in the way of how much happiness you allow in your life? If so, know that there is so much more available to you. There are many awareness techniques available including practices such as meditation and breathing that can begin to alter the environment of internal self talk. Check out what is going on in your local community.
What do you think? Can you clearly see how your relationship with these areas is effecting your choices and your actions and ultimately your happiness in life? Which of these three relationships is effecting your day-to-day results the most? Write down three things can you change in that area today to increase your happiness.
Leave me a comment and let me know what comes up for you and how I can support you in increasing your happiness by choosing the right relationships and community. Wishing you a very happy and fulfilling day!
Dr. Lynn K Jones
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Dr. Lynn K. Jones is a Board Certified Coach and an Advanced Certified Personal and Executive Coach based in Santa Barbara, California and a sought after coach and consultant for organizations and individuals across the US. Her doctoral work completed at the Wurzweiler School of Social Work, Yeshiva University concerned organizational culture; she coaches, consults and trains organizations on what they need to do to create organizational cultures that are aligned with their vision and values using a process of Appreciative Inquiry. She coaches individuals on achieving their reflected best selves. A MSW@USC faculty member, Dr. Lynn K. Jones, MSW, DSW, CSWM, teaches Human Behavior and Social Environment and Leadership to social work students at the University of Southern California.