“Anything I cannot transform into something marvelous, I let go of.” ~Anais Nin
Coaching, Forgiveness and The Art of Letting Go
The idea of “letting go” may be overused in today’s world, but it is still a good idea. If change is the one constant in our lives, why is it so common to get stuck in habitual patterns of thinking? A worn out relationship? A stale work experience? They are all screaming for us to make a change.
In my coaching practice, I find that what often is holding a person back from moving forward is the fear of letting go. The result is feeling paralyzed and unable to move confidently in a new direction.
Letting go or surrendering to circumstances beyond our control is not simple. It requires conscious attention. Here are a few ideas that can help you get through difficult transitions.
1. Forgive those who you feel have hurt you
Hanging on to grudges or resentments keeps you from moving forward and negatively effects your physical health. In a recent study at Harvard researchers found that practicing forgiveness reduces pain, improves heart health and increases happiness levels. Forgiveness is one of the most powerful practices for transformation.
2. Write down the consequences of your attachment
This process can give you great insight and clarity. Think of this as a pros and cons list about the thing that you feel unable to let go of. Write down what will happen if you let go? If you don’t, what will happen? What are you willing to accept in your life? Are there things you won’t accept? Be real and candid with yourself, this is for your eyes only.
3. Visualize your ideal life and actualized goals
Imagining your future as you would like to see it helps you leave the past behind. Read about the power of visualization in Psychology Today. Our brains actually do not know the difference between imagined and actual experiences. When we visualize, we invite new, desired experiences into our lives.
4. Apologize and express your gratitude
Sometimes we feel that we have done wrong to other people. Practice expressing your sincere apologies. Thank the people in your life that have given you an opportunity to learn and grow. Read about how a Growth Mindset leads to success and happiness.
Letting go may tap into a sleeping reservoir of possibilities. You discover fresh perspectives. New relationships come into your life. You have the space to live out your true potential.
Can’t Do It Alone? Get a Coach
When you are overwhelmed and feeling stuck in life, support from an objective source can help you move forward with confidence and clarity. A coach can help you to identify what is holding you back and support you with the tools to let go.
I hope you can put these powerful practices into action in your life. If you want to discuss more on the power of letting go and how it applies to your situation book a free introductory session with me here. Wishing you abundance, happiness and success in all you do today.
Dr. Lynn K Jones
Dr. Lynn K. Jones is a Board Certified Coach and an Advanced Certified Personal and Executive Coach based in Santa Barbara, California and a sought after coach and consultant for organizations and individuals across the US. Her doctoral work completed at the Wurzweiler School of Social Work, Yeshiva University concerned organizational culture; she coaches, consults and trains organizations on what they need to do to create organizational cultures that are aligned with their vision and values using a process of Appreciative Inquiry. She coaches individuals on achieving their reflected best selves. A MSW@USC faculty member, Dr. Lynn K. Jones, MSW, DSW, CSWM, teaches Human Behavior and Social Environment and Leadership to social work students at the University of Southern California.