“Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to navigate them”
Career Coaching 3-Part Series (Part 1): Bouncing Back From Major Life Changes
At some point or another, we all experience major life changes that affect our work and life. We get fired, laid off or passed over; a loved one dies, leaves or gets in trouble; a project stalls or gets cancelled. The list, unfortunately, is endless. This blog is the first of a 3-part series that will explore how best to rebound from major life changes and navigate those difficult times.
For some, the impact of challenging life changes and disruptions is overwhelming. Recovery, if it comes at all, is painfully slow. Others are resilient and able to sail through the tough times. Resilience—the strength required to adapt to change—acts as their internal compass so they can resourcefully navigate an upset.
How can you can develop your internal compass and build your emotional resilience to better survive the rough seas of life?
1. A Sense of Hope and Trust in the World
Resilient people set their internal compass on a belief in the basic goodness of the world and trust that things will turn out all right in the end. This positive attitude allows them to weather times when everything seems bleak and to look for and accept the support that is out there. This approach toward the world gives them the ability to hope for a better future.
Neuroscientists have discovered that the human mind functions best when it acts as if there is hope and organizes itself to make good things happen. When feeling challenged by life events, take a time-out and consider: What do I hope for my future after this event? Once your mind stops thinking about what is lost and begins to focus on what is possible it will start working on this new hopeful future.
2. Interpreting Experiences in a New Light
Resilient people recalibrate their compass to see how things look from another position. This ability to look at a situation in a new way (a skill called “reframing”) can minimize the impact of a difficult situation and support creativity in solving a problem. Resilient people realize that there are opportunities in every crisis and focus on those.
3. A Sense of Mastery and Control Over Your Destiny
You may not be able to predict the future, but you can tackle a problem instead of feeling at the mercy of forces outside of your control. Resilient people know that ultimately their survival and the integrity of their life values depend on their ability to take action rather than remain passive. Tough times call for you to tap into your own sense of personal direction. Ask yourself: What is important here? How can I start to take some small steps to move in that direction?
Just by attuning your internal compass, you can dramatically shift your experience during difficult, major life changes.
Are you currently facing or have you previously faced a challenging change in your life? How do you use your internal compass to effectively navigate these challenges? Share with us and let us know how you use the power of your thoughts to ride out these tough times.
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Dr. Lynn K Jones
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Dr. Lynn K. Jones is a Board Certified Coach and an Advanced Certified Personal and Executive Coach based in Santa Barbara, California and a sought after coach and consultant for organizations and individuals across the US. Her doctoral work completed at the Wurzweiler School of Social Work, Yeshiva University concerned organizational culture; she coaches, consults and trains organizations on what they need to do to create organizational cultures that are aligned with their vision and values using a process of Appreciative Inquiry. She coaches individuals on achieving their reflected best selves. A MSW@USC faculty member, Dr. Lynn K. Jones, MSW, DSW, CSWM, teaches Human Behavior and Social Environment and Leadership to social work students at the University of Southern California.